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Don't Make the Same Mistake as This Troubled Prime Minister

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Jul 12, 2017

Don't Make the Same Mistake as This Troubled Prime Minister 

British Prime Minister Theresa May is living in a house of falling bricks. The house was, let's be fair, already pretty shaky when she moved in. But while she could have moved in and started work on strengthening the foundations, it seemed that what she did do is take a wrecking ball to it - how? By getting too cocky, or so it seems.

When Theresa May became PM unopposed, that was a chance to really shine. Use her power for good and show the world, through all the amazing things she did, that in spite of winning unopposed, she was the worthiest candidate.

Instead, she acted like her power was illegitimate, and she needed validation. And of course, she figured that the majority that supported her to get in the house, would also help her hold it up, right?

Wrong. She insisted on an election, lost the majority her party was holding, and now has in fact, become, powerless. Or, as some people in her government are saying, she's 'dead in the water'.

So was it that Theresa May got cocky, or overconfident, about her popularity? I think it's the opposite. While cockiness sounds like the same thing as confidence, it is quite the opposite, actually. This move must have come from a place of overwhelming insecurity.

We often think that the opposite of insecurity is confidence. And yes, to an extent, it is. But it is insecurity that leads to a show of overconfidence - cockiness, arrogance - these are not the opposite of insecurities; they are consequences of insecurity.

Confidence, and therefore belief in yourself, is crucial for success, but it comes from experience, knowledge, and an open-minded acceptance of oneself and one's flaws. When you are confident you can be open to accepting new ideas, differing points of view, and other ways of lives. A confident person is ready to engage with opposing ideas, and even accept that they are wrong about some things.

This is the opposite of overconfidence. Overconfidence is a sort of self-defence - a need to protect yourself from your own faults. It comes from a place of discomfort with youself.

When you are unsure about yourself, you try to hide it by seeming extra sure of yourself. In that un-charming category of overconfident insecurities lie the know-it-alls, the hardliners, the warmongers, the fundamentalists...these attitudes might appear to be confidence in oneself and one's beliefs - but they are, in fact, the insecurities. This is all I know, the attitude says, I better hold on to it, come hell or high water.

Watch yourself. If you catch yourself thinking that you are often, if not always, right - you are likely making this same mistake. If you believe your point of view, way of life, opinion, or choice is the rightest one - or at least righter than everyone you know, then you are suffering from the fatal mistake - cockiness.

I guess you could ask me the obvious question - if cockiness is so bad, what about Trump? And at this point all I can do is groan and cover my eyes. But then, think about what's going on with him - in his cockiness he is facing lawsuit after lawsuit. Think, by contrast, about the humble, solid-head-on-his-shoulders Warren Buffett, who is a much-respected billionaire, and has so much money he is choosing to give it away the way he thinks best.

This is not just an issue for individuals - it extends to societies too. Just look at what happened to the Brits after colonialism. Or what's happening to the US - an unravelling stemming from the arrogance in their role as world leaders, not to mention the quality of their pop music.

This is the kind of cockiness that unravels nations, dethrones leaders, and could undermine you in so many ways.

So be not cocky. If you find yourself hardening against new ideas, and clamping down on your certainties, take the time to self-reflect, because there could be some trouble within. And try these powerful behaviours to build yourself up, and open yourself to new ideas and experiences.

3 Powerful Tips Anyone Can Use to Build Self-Esteem

Remind yourself that it is okay to be wrong: You do not need to be perfect, flawless, and always right. You can be incomplete, make mistakes, be messy. Forgive yourself, and allow yourself to be human.

Be kind to others: When you are kind to others, you are kinder to yourself. Allow mistakes to pass, don't lose your temper when someone bumps into you. In fact, apologise, even if it wasn't your mistake. Smile at strangers. Make conversation with people around you, understand where they come from, what makes them who they are, and accept and embrace them for being different from you.

Try new things: Being open to new things is so important to not get cocky and start thinking that what you already know, do, eat, the way you live is the best. I know you love mangoes. But maybe you will also love mangosteen...have you tried it? It's a small thing, but even a new taste can open your mind. Take bigger steps, why not, learn a new language, travel to a new country...

Life is long, and with improved quality of life and the medical advances we just keep taking for granted, it is only getting longer. Soon we could be living for 130 years. If, by the age of 30, you think you know everything, what will you do for the next 100 years after that?

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5 Responses to "Don't Make the Same Mistake as This Troubled Prime Minister"

j.

17 Jul, 2017

"When you are unsure about yourself, you try to hide it by seeming extra sure of yourself. In that un-charming category of overconfident insecurities lie the know-it-alls, the hardliners, the warmongers, the fundamentalists...these attitudes might appear to be confidence in oneself and one's beliefs - but they are, in fact, the insecurities. This is all I know, the attitude says, I better hold on to it, come hell or high water." Sounds a bit like our present rulers compared to the modest MMS. The TV and FM radio ads., the quoting of unheard of surveys, taking credits for initiatives begun by earlier persons, imposing social norms, and latest, making comparisons with Mahatma Gandhi. j.

Zahid Y Patka

12 Jul, 2017

Anisha An Informative & Educative Article. From Toaday I Will Follow This Principles

Seema

12 Jul, 2017

Amazing understanding!! Very true.  I would like to add that sometimes crutch is required.Its ok to lack in self worth and build it up slowly. At times when you take the pride away, a person may collapse.Pride is a crutch till such time that we develop self worth and confidence.

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tony

12 Jul, 2017

Hey Anisha, you got the cock's eye - dead on Great piece - I shall look out for more Best going forward tony

Salim

12 Jul, 2017

Amazing Anisha, You are great story teller. It was catchy and educational. Amazing 3T(Tale, talk and Tools) Thank you. Salim

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